“Not every Hero’s a dad, but every Dad can be a hero.”
3/1/10
This profound and world-altering truth is why Don’t Eat Us! exists. Every father should be required to recite this mantra before the umbilical cord is cut.
Why Don’t Eat Us!?
My son’s first three word phrase? ”Don’t eat us!” He’s now four years old. But the phrase first met my eager ears two months ago.
Caleb has special needs. Some specialists call it autism. Some call it Landau-Kleffner Syndrome. Whatever it is, speech, coordination, age-appropriate behavior, it’s all been delayed.
For four years Lish, my wife, has been his #1 advocate. It’s time Dad takes the reins as well.
My family will not be devoured by circumstance. Don’t Eat Us!
Who am I?
Depending on what role I need to play, the answer changes. Work hours I’m a dentist. The rest of the week I’m a man dealing with a premature case of midlife crisis. I’m a writer. A lover. A Christian. But for the purposes of this blog…
I’m just a dad. Trying to be a hero.
My promise:
I created this blog for two very important reasons.
1) I need to be accountable to my wedding vows and my values.
2) I want to nurture a community of men who can encourage one another to be better fathers and husbands. I can learn so much from you. If you can learn from my misadventures as well, then all the better.
Welcome to Don’t Eat Us! Check back often. You just may become a hero…

I want to join the community of men trying to be a “hero” for their kids and wife. Where do I sign-up?
Let’s learn together!
-Peace
By: Erik Polzin on March 8, 2010
at 10:18 PM
You got it! Great to have you on board. I’ve got big plans for us “Hero’s”. I’d love to see your family soon. Give us a call and come up!
By: donteatus on March 9, 2010
at 6:19 AM
Nick,
What a great blog. I’m so glad to hear you are so committed to your marriage and fatherhood. Where there is commitment, there is success! I am praying for peace and unity in your home. Keep writing…
By: Carolyn on March 9, 2010
at 4:48 PM
Thanks for reading! I have great examples from the men in our families. Thank you for your love for Caleb and our family.
By: donteatus on March 9, 2010
at 11:28 PM
Hi Nick, I’m your Cousin Joel’s wife Michelle from Phoenix. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with everyone. I will continue to read your blog and send positive thoughts to you and your wife. Kiss your kids for us
By: Michelle Saari on March 14, 2010
at 11:33 AM
Great to hear from you! Let Joel know that I’ve been Gluten-free for over a month. I’ll be blogging about that soon I think. I’ve never felt better in my life. Thank you for your heartfelt concern for our family. We are thinking of you as well.
By: donteatus on March 14, 2010
at 9:31 PM
Hi Nick. I came across your blog by coincidence…although nothing really is coincidence, is it? You both are amazing parents with beautiful children. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your blog has been an encouragement for both my husband and me, and we look forward to your updates. Your family is in our prayers.
By: Andrea Scott on March 16, 2010
at 12:24 PM
hero. definitely.
By: Jacqui on March 24, 2010
at 7:21 AM
We have not even to risk the adventure alone, for the heroes of all time have gone before us – the labyrinth is thoroughly known. We have only to follow the thread of the hero path, and where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a god; where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves; wher…e we had thought to travel outward, we shall come to the center of our own existence. And where we had thought to be alone, we shall be with all the world
By: Dana Woods on March 25, 2010
at 9:08 PM
Nick
I hope you can see my email address as the admin of this page. I’d like to send you something just to you. Will you email me?
By: jkt on March 26, 2010
at 1:33 PM
I can’t even remember how I found your blog, but every time I read it it leaves me in tears. You are a beautiful writer, photographer and father. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
By: Alison on April 5, 2010
at 1:57 PM
This is incredible… I am hoping to get Jay to sit down and read… What an inspiration!
By: Veronica Ward on September 1, 2010
at 9:59 AM
Thanks Veronica. I’m happy to have you reading! As always, if you know any dads or moms that are dealing with special needs issues, I’m happy to have them visit.
By: donteatus on September 2, 2010
at 2:58 PM
Nick,
I would like to take a moment and say thank you.
My name is Robert F. Morrow, and I am the Creative Director for the Autism Asperger’s Digest. I wanted to drop you a short note to say thanks to you and your wife for the incredible work you do for your children. I especially want to thank you from one man to another for all your work. As you may know the divorce rate in families that have children with special challenges is running at about 80% (the last time I checked), so it’s incredibly refreshing to see blogs like yours (the Pinewood Derby Car article was great).
Keep up the great work, and thank you for the link to our Magazine. If you should need anything at all, please feel free to email anytime. My email is rmorrow@autismdigest.com.
And as a sidebar, have you thought about submitting an article to us? (http://autismdigest.com/aadigest-submission-guidelines/) If you have already, forgive my ignorance. If you haven’t, now is the time.
Ready. Set. Go.
God Bless,
Robert F. Morrow
c (817) 907-6781
f (817) 428-0207
Creative Director | Autism Asperger’s Digest
721 West Abram Street, Arlington, TX 76013
By: Robert Morrow on February 22, 2012
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Robert,
Thanks for the kind words. I have found writing for Autism Asperger’s Digest a refreshing outlet to share about my experiences as a father. Writing about my struggles as a father with a child with special needs is a blessing I’m learning not to take for granted. I love your magazine and hope that others can discover the wealth of information and encouragement I’ve found in each issue.
Best of luck to you and AAD,
Nick
By: donteatus on February 23, 2012
at 7:55 AM